Always on the phone? Hide screen? Evidence that your partner is cheating

People underestimate intuition. If your gut feeling tells you something is wrong, don’t ignore it.

Stalkerware is surprisingly easy to install on someone’s phone, and trackers keep track of you online and offline. Tap or click to see characters whether you’re being watched or just plain paranoid.

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Before we get into the digital cheat crumbs, my best advice is to have an honest conversation with your partner. Couples therapy is an excellent place to delve into deeper topics. It’s also a good idea to consult an attorney before starting your search to make sure you’re not breaking federal or state law.

1. Glued to their devices

Does your spouse or partner always hang on to their phone or computer? Maybe the work is crazy right now, or maybe they are busy chatting with someone.

Notice how they interact with their devices. Many people turn their phones away from others to protect their privacy, but most do not hide their phones from their spouses. The same goes for shuffling browser tabs or turning off a tablet.

These gestures are subtle and can suggest that your partner is doing something they wouldn’t want you to see.

Notifications can also reveal scammers. However, you don’t have to be up to any good to take control of your notifications. Tap or click to easily stop the ringing and buzzing when you want a little peace and quiet.

2. Apps can hide secret calls and SMS

In the movies, people aren’t very sneaky. In real life, people go to great lengths to hide their indiscretions. Unless your partner is particularly brave, you won’t see a chat app on their home screen or hot messages in their SMS folder.

There are many apps out there for sharing messages, photos, videos, and more that are not what they appear to be. Calculator Pro + is an example. It looks like a calculator, but it saves texts and call logs from secret contacts.

To get a better idea of ​​what apps your spouse is using and for how long, check their Screen Time report. Are you looking for something out of the ordinary. I would say that using a calculator app for four hours a week is considered strange.

Check Screen Time and Usage on an iPhone:

• Go to Settings> Screen time. Choose Show all activities, then week. This shows a summary of weekly usage.

• You can tap Day to view a summary of daily usage.

Check the app usage on an Android:

• Tap settings > Digital wellbeing and parental controls > dashboard to see screen times for each app.

• Screen time shows which apps have been on the screen for how long.

3. Look for a second number

An easy way to keep two romantic lives separate is to buy two separate phones. That way, the scammer won’t get confused and accidentally write to the wrong person. A second phone is also a liability, even if it’s called a “work” or “emergency phone”.

Another technique is to buy a separate SIM card. Some phones allow you to use two SIM cards, which can be a hassle. A much easier way is to get a Google Voice number to ring on the current phone.

Any new entries for people or companies that you are not familiar with can be a list. Call the number and see who answers. Blocking your number is a good idea.

Tap or click to see 5 ways to block or hide your number when on a call.

4. Find every letter of the alphabet

Scammers would have to be foolish not to delete the search histories on their browsers. If they routinely access dating sites, they are likely to be thinking of covering their tracks.

The auto-fill is harder to remember. Search engines like Google do a remarkable job of guessing your search parameters based on everything you’ve ever looked for before.

If you share a computer with a suspicious spouse, you may want to type “megalodon” and instead the words “Megan Granger’s home phone number” will flash over the field. Take a few steps here. Start typing each letter of the alphabet and see what comes up.

Tap or click 10 hidden Google search features that you should be using.

5. Secret messages and online documents

The most dangerous habit for scammers is sending photos and videos. These media may spice things up, but they are living evidence of an affair. Such materials can be used as evidence in divorce proceedings – especially when a betrayed husband or wife betrayed can save or download copies.

It’s easy to secretly embed an image in an audio or image file. Tools like OurSecret or QuickStego make this point-and-click function for casual fraudsters. The sniffer usually suspects nothing unusual. The files seem ordinary. You need to know a specific keystroke or code to unlock the files.

Scammers have also been known to create online Google Docs or Microsoft 365 files that look innocent until you open them. For example, the filename could be “Third Quarter Goal”. When the file opens, the first page appears to be a collection of corporate language.

However, scrolling down will reveal the real purpose of the file. The online document is a covert way to share notes, photos, and videos with others.

Do you need to send a message that stays private? Tap or click to see my encrypted email and text choices.

6. Review cloud services, including Amazon Prime

To keep pictures and videos secret, scammers can also use a specific cloud service. For example, the Keepsafe Photo Vault was designed to store these media files and prevent others from accessing them. Many customers use Keepsafe for business or personal reasons, but if you discover that your spouse has a Keepsafe account and can’t figure out why, then something may be coming to your attention.

Two similar services are Vault and Hide It Pro, which are designed to save photos and videos and protect them with a PIN. They also work similarly to cloud services like Google Drive, Dropbox, Microsoft OneDrive, and Apple’s iCloud, but security is a top priority for them.

Also think beyond the online cloud box. Check out Amazon Prime as you get a free photo vault as part of your membership.

An Amazon Prime membership includes a lot more. Tap or click here for 20 ways to get more from your Amazon account.

7. Check the locations of the phone

As we rely more and more on GPS, you may also want to take a look at your spouse’s location history. For Google users, the menu option “Previous Destinations” in the navigation system can record the movements of your spouse; For Android users, the Google Timeline function (can be found in the Google Maps app or Google Maps online) works in a similar way.

If your spouse uses an iPhone, be sure to look for a location. Many people don’t even know that this treasure trove of tracking exists.

You can find the common locations of an iPhone user in settings, privacy, Location services, System services and then Significant locations. It takes some effort to consistently disable or delete these types of settings. So if they’re up to no good, chances are you’re going to find something.

You may want to disable this feature on your own phone if this approach puts you off. Tap or click for steps on how to do it.

8. Go through the trash

As a rule, deleted digital elements are never gone for good. A computer’s Recycle Bin or Recycle Bin is used to hold items until the Recycle Bin is emptied. You can use cloud services like DropBox to restore items from the recycle bin.

Deleted emails accumulate in the trash until it is emptied. Voicemails on an iPhone will be deleted but can be accessed. Apps deleted from a phone can also be restored. If you are using mobile operator services, voicemails may be available on the website.

Finding evidence of a fraudster can be a hassle. Take care of yourself while doing this.

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